'She's very quiet'
This is the top (9 out of 10) comment I get during parents-teachers' meetings, what most people say when they're asked to give a brief description of me, first impressions at least. And most of the time, their tones carry slight hints of accusation. It's more of a criticism than a neutral comment.
I don't understand.
Is it necessary to always have opinions on everything? What if I really have nothing to say? Do I just babble whatever unconstructive statement I can come up with?
Do I always have to talk to people when I'm surrounded by talking beings? Do I always have to start and continue conversations when I bump into somebody I know? Is it impolite to stare at my phone or read a book when I'm sitting next to a person who is doing nothing? Is a simple greeting of hello not enough?
Why am I labeled as 'antisocial' if I find peace by just spending an entire day in my room alone? Can't I just eat dinner alone while watching Netflix instead of having a meal outside with my friends?
Humans are divided into extroverts and introverts. But why do people tend to think that there are more faults in the latter?
Are extroverts 'better' than introverts? Because I've always assumed that it's just a category, like male and female, or long-haired and short-haired.
As an introvert, I accept how some people have the need to express their feelings by speaking and sounding their opinions, and how they feel more comfortable to be talking to people around them, instead of just exchanging smiles and nods. I have no problem having a conversation with anybody. But why can't other people think that it's okay for me to enjoy being the listener instead of the speaker? What if I really don't need the acknowledgment from the whole world?
If you're not too noisy, then why am I too quiet?
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